"Fully Committed"

There's a lot of pressure to breastfeed children.  Often women are made to feel like "bad moms" if they choose, for one reason or another, not to.  Society comes at them from all corners.  If a mother is feeding her child formula, some will look down at her, sometimes subtly, and sometimes not.  If she breastfeeds in public, others will suggest she go somewhere private (which, by the way, is against the law in most states).  Workplaces often make it difficult for a woman to pump in private.  Maternity leaves are too short.  And the list goes on.  But one thing that drives me nuts is the notion of being a "fully committed" mom.  Lactivists like to throw that term around a lot.   In order to be fully committed you have to breastfeed exclusively, pumping at work, and never "give up."   I take umbrage at this.  Moms are doing their level best.  What works for one, doesn't always work for another.  For some people, breastfeeding comes easy.  For others "latching on" becomes a dreaded experience.  For some, pumping is easy.  For others, it's not ( it can hurt, it can make your breasts look and feel bizarre, there might not be a good place for you to do it at work, etc.).  For those people supplementing with formula might work best.  But the idea that one is not "fully committed" to motherhood just because she doesn't breastfeed or brastfeed exclusively, is ludicrous, disrespectful, and a dangerous thing to say.  Aren't we beyond this argument?